Why aren’t there more interracial relationships in society today?
In the United States we have failed to see integration is in sexual relationships. For example, if we randomly assigned people in the U.S. to their marriage partners, we would expect 44% of marriages to be between two people of different races. According to the 2000 Census, however, only 4% of marriages fit that description. Interracial couples are definitely not common, because they are not fully understood. However, some people are set in their past mindsets and choose not to embrace change.
One of the reasons there aren’t more interracial and multicultural couples in society is because there are so many misconceptions. Individuals don’t take the time to fully understand and embrace the racial dating mix of our modern day society. Sometimes individuals won’t choose to pursue with an interracial relationship, no matter the feelings she/he has towards the other, due to society’s criticism and controversy. The fact that some people won’t date you or talk to you due to your race, ethnicity or skin color, is atrocious.
In recent times, it seems that interracial couples are becoming a more positive topic for discussion. There are more interracial dating sites that have been created, such as Interracial Match, and Interracial Dating. These sites are making it simpler to meet and relate to other individuals of a differing race, without the negative judgment from society. Here is an article listing different, free, interracial dating sites, Made Man. It shows growth in our society, when we have sites like these specifically for interracial couples.
Last year, the cereal brand Cheerios released a commercial that featured an interracial couple and their biracial daughter. Seeing a black man with a white woman brought out the racist comments, and people were so distraught over this commercial, that Cheerios had to disable comments on its YouTube account. You can still see the commercial here. During the Super Bowl this year, the brand decided to bring it down a notch on its efforts to be reflective of a diverse nation and released a second commercial featuring the same family. In the new ad, the mother is pregnant with the couple’s second child. This commercial was marked with far less backlash. You can view this commercial here. Personally, I adored both commercials. The little girl’s tone is funny and the overall theme is about love, no matter your skin color.
The effect that interracial relationships have on the U.S. has different influences for each state. For example, a participant from a low-tolerance state such as South Carolina (where 28% of those surveyed feel that interracial marriage should be banned) has same-race preferences that are 16% points higher than participant from a state such as New York (where 22% feel that interracial marriage should be banned). It’s ridiculous to think that individuals would want something as special as love, to be banned.
According to USA Today, Usa Today, Among opposite-sex married couples, one in 10 (5.4 million couples) are interracial, a 28% jump since 2000. In 2010, 18% of heterosexual unmarried couples were of different races (1.2 million couples) and 21% of same-sex couples (133,477 couples) were mixed. The data show “we’re becoming much more of an integrated, multiracial society,” says demographer William Frey of the Brookings Institution. That’s a lot of interracial couples, it means our society is expanding their stubborn thoughts and accepting change. We still have a long way to go as a nation, with interracial couples and race alone.
This gender discrepancy has grown larger over time; in 1960, white husbands were found in 50% of black/white marriages, and in 62% of asian/white marriages. The social result of this imbalance is a lack of marital opportunities for black women and asian men. Marriage rates of black women in the U.S. are the lowest in the country; in 2007 only 33% of black women were married. This marriage-gap has been explained by high incarceration rates among black men, reducing their income and marriage prospects for the future, and the growing divide in education rates between black women and black men.
Dating outside of your race can definitely be an enriching and edifying experience. It not only teaches you about another person, but it also can teach you a lot about yourself in the process. So get out there and try it out. Here’s a really great list of Do’s and Don’ts if you’re new to the interracial world: Girlschase. Interracial dating is one of the most enlightening experiences, it’s disheartening that society still has not fully accepted it. We have come a long way as a country, but there is still a long road of acceptance for mixed-race couples.