Interracial dating is a very controversial topic. There are many misconceptions regarding interracial relationships, and marriage, as well as disapproving comments from society and its peers. Also, Interracial couples are not as common as you’d think. However, public opinion on interracial dating has changed wildly in the last few decades. Now, over 8% of all new marriages are interracial, and Americans overwhelmingly approve of interracial pairings. But when it comes to interracial dating, there are many benefits as well as some negative things.
If you haven’t dated outside your cultural or ethnic background, you’re potentially missing out on some amazing experiences. When entering an interracial couple, there are numerous pros and cons, but there are many benefits to dating outside of your comfort zone. The most obvious is learning about each others culture or religion, through their families as well. It’s interesting when you’re exposed to other ways of thinking, and other cultures or traditions. Another benefit is possibly learning a new language, even if you aren’t fluent. Even just knowing the basics are great! An important step when dating someone, especially in a biracial or interracial relationship is to talk about each others values and beliefs.
The biggest benefit from interracial relationships, or dating period, would be having an incredible experience with someone you love, respect and have gotten to learn and grow with, which is truly an amazing feeling. The last benefit of interracial dating, is that you have the opportunity to lead by example, and show society that there is nothing wrong with interracial, multiracial dating. You get to show people around you that the relationship is like any other, with love, challenges, disagreements, and happy memories, just like any other relationship.
When surrounded by people of your own race, it’s easy to believe that everyone holds your perspective. But, interracial dating will give you the ability to understand perspectives from different races and cultures. You’ll learn more about the nuances of communication. Navigating different cultures means that you’ll turn into an expert on nonverbal cues, tone and listening.
There are many known disadvantages, cons, when in an interracial relationship. The first and most obvious cons, is that society, you family, etc. will not accept or approve the relationship. This is the most disheartening, especially for individuals who are very family oriented. Often, family and friends will keep their distance from the relationship and from you.
Another big disadvantage is the Indirect comments and staring. People will stare, shake their heads, or whisper to one another as you walk by or enter a restaurant. This is the absolute worst feeling, not being accepted or at at least respected by others. Even more direct comments often are heard when in an interracial relationship. Such as, “You should be with your own kind”, “You are disgracing your race/culture” and possibly other insulting comments. People will always have something to say, whether it’s positive or negative. You have to just learn to laugh and ignore the hate.
Going back to the issue with family and friends as stated earlier. Often your significant other will not be acknowledged at a party or get together. Maybe you’ll even be asked family or friends not to bring your partner over. I have actually gone through a similar situation like this before. My family and friends did not approve, and I was stuck at a crossroad. Deciding which path to take was the most difficult decisions I have ever had to make.
Within the relationship there may be disagreements about whose values/beliefs are more important. This is a big one, there such never be an argument over whose thoughts, beliefs and values are more important. If you truly love each other or share strong feelings. Then just let it go, and agree to disagree.
The last con that I will discuss is the fact that maybe one partner may feel uncomfortable telling their family and friends about the relationship. This will cause problems in the relationship. Especially with trusting each other. This can make an individual feel as though they are not sufficient enough. Your partner can be on edge, inexplicably unreachable, and difficult to schedule with. Plus, remember that this shows a pattern of being deceitful to people they love, and could mean your partner is not going to stand up to your future in-laws.
Being in an interracial or multiracial relationship is one of the most eye opening, loving experiences. Benefits of being of dating interracially, is having a difference of opinion, cultural background and upbringing. Going against society and its negative views, and dating interracially, teaches you to be more aware, open-minded and sensitive to issues you may not have ever acknowledged before. It’s empowering to know that you can make the dating decisions that you feel are best for you, regardless of skin color and public opinion.